Everybody Lies.

Generally, I've found that people who are interested in the H?W pairing (sexual or otherwise) who have problems with Wilson don't hate him. Those tend to be, and I generalize, Huddy and Hameron fans who piss me off with their opinions of Wilson, usually because they are so shallow!

I don't have a lot of experience with Hameron shippers, but Huddy shippers (and I just KNOW I'm going to catch hell for saying this) make me crazy. I really didn't mind Huddy shippers until I realized that as a group they are just so out there. They are delusional and so obsessed that they can't even recognize reality any more. Certainly not all of them, but there are a LOT of them. Shallow? Yes, in the way that they can't see or tolerate anything besides Huddy. (Believe it or not, I actually ship House/Wilson. I'm sure some of the people I've been chatting with would be surprised to hear that, but I've always been into slash.)

I'm torn as to whether Wilson truly doesn't understand the effect he has on House, or if on some level he DOES understand, but is just to exhausted and worn-out to acknowledge and then deal with it. I do believe that when House hurts Wilson (which hasn't REALLy happened since season 3, JMO) he knows exactly what he is doing. Which is worse? I don't know.

I can't think of a time when I thought, "Gee, Wilson realizes that he's hurting House." Usually I'm yelling at him to stop before he sends the guy over the edge. When House hurts Wilson (and you're right, it hasn't been much at all lately), you know he knows he's doing it. I know I'm biased, but I think it's worse when you DON'T know your doing it because you'd have no reference point to measure against when deciding just how far to go.
When House deliberately sets out to hurt Wilson, he can gauge Wilson's reaction and he can control the outcome because he knows what kind of effect he's having. Wilson is a bit more dangerous because he's clueless as to the damage he is doing. He doesn't know when to stop because he doesn't really have a way to judge what that point should be.

Depression and medication ARE things I have dealt with personally, so the way Wilson deals with his depression helps me connect with him. I also have a need to feel needed, in that I like to take care of people. Also, I am not an insecure person, but I do feel safer and more secure in my relationships if I am providing some sort of caretaking, emotional or otherwise. I also have a compulsive need to appear well-adjusted and healthy, which I am slowly but surely shaking off in therapy (next step- blue hair!).

I can certainly see why you would relate to him. You sound very much like him! Good for you for recognizing and getting help, though. I have suffered with depression for most of my life (I'm WAY older than you, btw!) and I can understand what you have gone through.

I do believe House is a tragic character, but it frustrated me, for example, that he couldn't just tell Wilson, Yes, yes I am in therapy, now FUCK OFF. I understand why he didn't, but I really wish he would.

I wish he would, too! Just once I'd like to see him just tell him off and walk away. Sadly, he never will because he needs Wilson. He carries guilt because of Amber, and I really think House believes he owes Wilson more than he can ever give. It's sad to see what abuse the man will take from both Wilson and Cuddy. It's sadder to think that he believes he deserves it.

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